Monday, August 3, 2009

being present

being present is one of the hardest things in life to do. so often we want to fix things, to make things easier or more comfortable. Yet, the reality is that often what people need is just someone to be with them in their struggle...to reside alongside them through whatever emotion might be coming up. Resting alongside another without judgment or even words is very hard.

heather is good at this... one of the characters i needed most in a partner was someone who would listen, sit, and be with me without forces me to communicate in the midst of struggle... often when i am dealing with things i don't want to speak. i want to think and be with someone while i do this. this makes many people very uncomfortable....especially since i am generally a verbal processor so this is different behaviour than normal. part of this comes from the need for confidentiality that my job requires.

thank god for heather who can come lay her head in my lap and just be. no strings attached, thank god she is open to being uncomfortable alongside my thoughts.